It made me very sad and incredibly jealous. My best friend lives in Nashville, and she is amazing. I am so lucky to have her. Any time I need someone to vent to, someone to cry to, and (now that we’re both moms) someone to ask why my baby’s poop looks the way it does, she’s only a phone call away. But we can’t do last-minute wine dates when it’s been a rough week, schedule regular playdates with our babies, or go to Dillard’s and try on clothes together. And that makes me sad.
And it’s not just her. I’ve made some pretty incredible girlfriends here in Baton Rouge. Unfortunately, most of them have moved away too. While I’m happy that their careers and/or relationships have blossomed and given them opportunities outside of Louisiana, selfishly I wish they were still here to play with me. It’s really true what they say … the older you get, the harder it gets to make new friends. Being a new mommy looking for other mommy friends has only amplified that for me. But just like you can’t force a romantic relationship, I’ve learned you can’t force a friendship either. Some people are “just not that into you.”
I’ve had this topic on my mind for a while now, but I wasn’t sure if it was something I felt comfortable opening up about. Until this week. I don’t know if it’s coincidence or if the universe was sending me a sign, but I’ve had several blogs pop up on my newsfeed this week by other women who have faced similar challenges after becoming moms. Their words helped me, and just maybe mine can help someone else too. It’s always nice to know you’re not alone.
Not that I want to go back to my single/kid-free days for even a minute, but I miss having a tribe ready to assemble at a moment’s notice. Sure if I were a stay-at-home mom I could join a play group or go to storytime at the library, but that’s not me nor do I want it to be. I work full-time, exercise daily, and occasionally have to attempt to cook and clean. That doesn’t leave much time for extracurriculars.
But a quick scroll through old photos or even just a stroll down memory lane reminds me that I already have a tribe of amazing ladies … even if they do live all over the country. Some are married, some are single, some have kids, and some do not. They are all different, but they all play a special role in my life and hold special places in my heart. For that, I am incredibly lucky.
I look forward to expanding my circle here as I continue on my journey of motherhood. It may take time and patience, but hey it took more than 10 years of dating to find my Prince Charming … and he was certainly worth the wait! What’s a little more time to find some more female partners in crime? ;)